Gay Marriage As Proof That God Exists
I read an article from CNN.com on New Year’s Day that reported on Delaware and Hawaii becoming the two newest states that allow same sex civil unions. Gay couples in both states lined up at midnight to perform ceremonies celebrating the occasion. With the addition of Delaware and Hawaii, that brings the total of states either allowing same sex civil unions or gay marriage to eleven. That is over 20% of our “United” States. Make no mistake, the standard of what is “marriage” is changing in our country and I believe that we have reached the tipping point. It is now just a matter of time before all 50 states endorse gay marriage. It will happen slowly at first, one at a time, until the majority of states are on board, then the other states will change their laws more quickly.
The re-definition of marriage is a dangerous thing. It is dangerous because it smacks of moral arrogance and because ultimately it thumbs its nose at God’s most basic order – one man plus one woman equals marriage. That has been the standard for marriage from the beginning of time.
And that brings to light the whole discussion of standards. Where exactly do our moral standards come from? Some would argue that there are no such things as moral standards. These are dangerous people. Psychology categorizes such people as sociopaths, people with no since of violation of other people’s rights. We lock these people up and throw away the key because ALL the rest of us recognize that there are indeed moral standards. Some things are just right and some things are wrong. And so the question is begged: Where exactly do these standards come from? Those who promote gay marriage and the atheist would say that moral standards are set by the current culture and then taught to children. As the cultural norms change so do the moral standards. That is why gay marriage was “wrong” generations ago but is “right” today. People who then try to hold to the “old” standard are called all sorts of names like homophobe, bigot, closed minded, intolerant, etc.
But there is a fundamental problem with the belief that moral standards are set by the culture – and that problem lies in the hard wiring of human DNA. We, all of us, are born with an innate understanding of right and wrong. C.S. Lewis argued for this aggressively and persuasively and I would agree with him. All you have to do is observe any group of pre-school children. Little Johnny is building a tower of blocks and along comes little Billy who knocks it down! Johnny cries fowl. He screams and tears flow. Why? Because Johnny knows that it is WRONG to knock over his tower of blocks. Recently at our church, one of our three year olds was standing holding a toy. Another little boy came along and jerked it out of his hand and cried, “Mine!” But then along came a third boy, one who watched the whole exchange. He walked up to the boy who took the toy and promptly took it from him and told him, “No,” and gave it back to the first boy. These are three year olds. How do you explain this? Something much more than cultural norms and indoctrination is at work here. These boys just know what is right and what is wrong. That sense is part of the way they were created.
And that brings us to God doesn’t it? It is impossible to escape the logical conclusion that the existence of moral standards points back to a standard giver, or a standard maker. Someone has to be the one that decides what is right and what is wrong or else we are all left to decide for ourselves and I don’t think any of us want to live in that kind of world.
And that brings us back to the standard for marriage. Marriage was God’s idea. Not Man’s. God was the one that created it and the one that defined it. Can man thus come along and undo what God has done? Well he can certainly try, but as I stated at the outset, this is dangerous business. Let me explain….
Proponents of gay marriage readily admit that they are changing the moral standard. That is without dispute. But if we are going to move away from God’s standard there are a couple of very important questions that must be considered and answered. First, what will the new standard be? And second, who gets to set that standard?
Let’s deal with the first question. The old standard for marriage is one man plus one woman. What is the new standard? Well as best as I can discern the new standard is simply “love.” I’ve heard it expressed this way, “If two people love each other, then who are we to say they can’t be married just because they are of the same gender?” Oh, it may not be worded exactly like this but in general this is how the explanation of the new moral standard goes. But now we have a real problem (and I would note that we will always have problems when we move away from God’s standard). Why does this get to be the standard? If the standard is “love” then why stop at just two people? Why not include three or more in the definition of marriage? If they all love each other, then who are you to say they cannot be married? Who are you to “intrude” on what they do behind closed doors? Can we really condemn polygamy if we are going to move to this new moral standard? And why stop there? Can a mother now marry her son according to this new standard of love and consent? “Oh, that’s gross and disgusting,” you may say. But isn’t that what everyone said about homosexual activity a generation ago? Are you just being intolerant and closed minded? As long as it does not affect you, why should you care what a mother and son do? What about a father and son getting married? What about two sisters? Three sisters? What if a man wants to marry his dog? If there is no God and we are all just equal forms of life on the evolutionary scale and if a dog loves his master, then why can’t they be married? What…are you a closed minded speciesist?
Yes, I am arguing from absurdity, but my point, I think is clear. Once you make a move from the moral standard set by God, then how do you put the brakes on. And that leads to the second question we must consider.
Who gets to decide the new standard? The homosexual community is the driving force behind the change of the standard of marriage. Well, why do they get to decide? As I argue, that once you move the standard of marriage to include two men or two women then you can also include three or more, the people of the homosexual community become the very first ones to put the brakes on. “Oh, no,” they say, “you can’t have three people in a marriage. A marriage is two.” Well who are they to be able to make that moral decision? And that is what I meant when I spoke of moral arrogance. The same people that call for a new standard will also be the ones to say, “No,” to moving the standard one more notch. And that is the epitome of arrogance – the notion that one group, and only one group, knows what is morally acceptable for the rest of us.
So what are we left with? Once you move away from God’s standard for marriage, there really is no moral ground left on which to stand. You must go all the way and what you have in the end is no definition of marriage at all. You have either the tyranny of a group that has seized the moral billy-club, or you have no moral standards at all. We’ve already stated that none of us want to live in a world with no moral standards. What we are left with is a group of people (and in the case of gay marriage it is the homosexual community) who don’t want to live under the authority of God’s moral standard so what they are trying to do is make everyone else live under their standard. They are doing to others the exact same thing that they don’t like God doing to them.
Yes, God indeed does exist and He, in His infinite wisdom, has ordered the world and set a moral standard for us to live by. And I for one would much rather live under God’s standard than under Man’s.